When to seek help?
The reasons for seeking psychological support are varied, but never insignificant.
When you feel the need to express your difficulties, to understand what is happening to you and what you are going through, when you feel helpless or powerless in the face of certain events in your life, when your suffering deeply affects your daily life, or when you seek greater coherence, meaning, peace and fulfilment without knowing which path to take, the support of a psychologist can be valuable in helping you gain clarity and find truly effective solutions.
You may have noticed that the events in our lives can have a significant impact on our emotions, and that learning to manage our emotions well can be essential.
Multiple causes, “difficult” consequences.
The list is endless. Our family, social, professional, economic, cultural and societal environments have a profound influence on us.
We are vulnerable, fragile, and not infallible. Becoming aware of this and accepting it opens the way to new possibilities and genuine solutions. Here, we can identify five main categories of wounds, associated with five broad types of consequences. We may all find ourselves experiencing some of these at different points in our lives.
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ABANDON
We all need to feel that we will not be abandoned, without wanting to feel trapped. Let us heal our wounds, then choose who we want in our lives. Abandonment can also be an opportunity to return to ourselves.
BETRAYAL
Betrayal is a soft, green mould, like down: it silently eats away from within. Let us not betray the trust of those close to us, as it can deeply shake the foundations of a relationship.
REJECTION
Don’t be afraid of being rejected. Instead, be afraid of being accepted for the wrong reasons. Be grateful to those who said no to you: thanks to them, you can be yourself, and that is all that matters to begin with.
INJUSTICE
Those who sow injustice reap misfortune. As a Persian proverb says, we cannot pick the fruits of happiness from the tree of injustice. If we carry its traces within us, we become complicit in that injustice, which eventually eats away at us from within.
HUMILIATION
A cause defended through violence, lies and slander reveals its own weakness. But let us not underestimate the power of weakness, humiliation, resentment and fear.
And what are the consequences?
ANXIETY
Anxiety becomes problematic when it is recurrent and has a negative impact on behaviour or on the ability to carry out daily activities. This is when we speak of anxiety disorders. The support of a psychologist can help you better manage the disorder and reduce its impact on different areas of your life.
ANGER
Reason wants to decide what is right. Anger wants us to find right whatever it has decided. It begins by feeding us and ends by consuming us. Understanding the paths of our anger allows us to make room for the light.
“Anger empties the soul of all its resources, so that the light appears at its core.” — Friedrich Nietzsche
SELF ESTEEM
It is easier to gain the esteem of others than to develop your own self-esteem. You don’t have to be flawless to have good self-esteem. The stronger your self-esteem, the greater your sense of what is possible, and the fewer things you will see as impossible. Make it happen, and your whole world can change. Stop believing that you don’t deserve it, because believing is not knowing.
STRESS
Silence and ignorance can be a poor response to constant stress. We can end up practising them like a sport, until they become a poison to our minds. In any case, they reveal that the environment we live in is not conducive to our well-being and good mental health.
DEPRESSION
In moments of deep discouragement, a clumsy remark can break even the strongest. On the other hand, a sincere message can revive even the most fragile hopes.
“Those who might be tempted to give in to discouragement should remember that nothing accomplished in this order can ever be lost, and that disorder, error and darkness can only prevail in appearance.”
— René Guénon, The Crisis of the Modern World